Thomas and William, How Friends Help Each Other

Thomas asked his friend Nasrani what he thought about the stories of Thomas’ childhood.

“Well, I’d prefer to see more positive, optimistic, uplifting stories,” Nasrani said, “After all, I am an optimist.”

“I think there are a few of those stories, even though most of the experiences in public school were emotionally trying. Still, some of the readers have told me they thought the stories were uplifting because they show that a kid can become someone despite all the setbacks. They can become successful even though they frequently got into fights with other kids and the school bureaucracy. For instance, I became a lawyer even though a teacher wanted to hold me back in school. I assist people accused of horrible crimes even though I was often bullied by the criminally minded,” Thomas replied. Thomas then thought, perhaps his friend Nasrani and he often did not see eye to eye because Thomas was more pragmatic than optimistic.

After the conversation, Thomas sat and thought. This will be a challenge. Perhaps some readers would enjoy lighter stories. If Nasrani wanted lighter reading, maybe he represented many others who would also appreciate such stories. The problem, he thought, was whether he could present a conflict that the reader would find engaging. Conflict, after all, presents the adventure in life and the advancement towards wisdom. Most people would throw down a novel if the characters did not have to face hardship of some stripe. Who wants to read a story with no plot? Thomas turned to his childhood diaries for such rare experiences.

As he read, he realized that he had gained much of his knowledge and ultimate wisdom from deep and serious study in school and reading, and not always from conflicts with others. He spent hours after school learning the lessons that were superficially expressed by the teacher in the classroom. The study after school was tedious and sometimes frustrating, but Thomas wanted to be at the top of his class because it would increase his options upon graduation. He did not know what he wanted to do after high school; he just knew he wanted to become successful.

The conflict Tom faced with his studies, of course, was that he battled with the concept of opportunity cost. “If I spend three hours studying math tonight, that is three hours I do not get to spend making friends and having fun running around. But, if I do the studying, someday I may have a successful career, make decent money, and then have time to really enjoy life.” Tom decided he would spend the time to invest in his future and not enjoy the moment.

His few friends would often chide Tom for being stingy with his money too. Tom did not go to see movies. He did not buy video game consoles and play hours of expensive video games. He did not eat out at fast food much. He did not date.

One of his friends, William, often told him he had to “Live in the moment more. You could be hit by a bus tomorrow and not have really lived.”

“If I get hit by a bus tomorrow, I’ll be gone, so what does it matter whether I spend my money on ‘fun’ today or sit back and read boring books instead and invest that money in something that will make me money for the future? If I don’t have a future because of the bus accident, someone else can enjoy my savings—maybe you.”

After high school, Will and Tom had a very different outlook on spending. Will loved to drive a new car every few years, purchase new furniture and clothes, and spend his money at expensive restaurants or on the latest in computer technology. He had several girlfriends, some just for fun, some more serious.

Tom, on the other hand, lived with his parents and saved his money. With his savings, he purchased fixer-upper properties in a low-income neighborhood and rented them out to poor people. He did not have girlfriends because he did not want the drama and he had high standards which few in Las Vegas could meet. He wanted someone that took life goals seriously.

He also did not like the one-night stands that some of his buddies bragged about. He knew that those one-night stands came at a cost, such as fear of disease or pregnancy. “Who has time to worry about that?” Thomas asked. His friends would look at him askance when he said things like, “A couple of minutes of pleasure can bring a lifetime of pain.” They thought that Thomas was far too ascetic to be happy. After all, Thomas wore second-hand clothes, did not eat meat, did not drink alcohol or do drugs, and did not date. Tom thought his friends were far too materialistic and hedonistic to find ultimate happiness.

In college, as a Real Estate Finance/Business major, Thomas was in the very top of his class. Las Vegas, in the late 1990s was booming. Real estate professionals were making fistfuls of money and donated heavily to the real estate program at UNLV in the form of grade-based scholarships. Instead of working and spending his money as William was doing, Thomas went to college and spent his time studying to achieve perfect grades. As a result, Thomas won numerous academic based scholarships.

Because he lived with his parents and did not have to pay rent, Thomas had so much money from the scholarships left over after paying tuition, that he could use it for down payments on “FSBO” properties in a low-income neighborhood. Many others in college borrowed money from the government and spent it on drinking and gambling in Las Vegas casinos. It was not hard for Thomas to compete for grades in school when many of his fellow students studied so little and would take tests with hangovers.

Thomas graduated from UNLV and had savings from his rental income sufficient to finally have real fun. He felt that he could take a vacation and spend some money before figuring out what to do with the rest of his life. With the thousands of dollars he had in his bank account, Thomas planned trips across the United States and Europe and then spent a year traveling. In that time he lived for five months in Switzerland, which was his home base from which he traveled to other parts of Europe, including Austria, Italy, and France. He learned German and explored cultures and history. To Thomas, this educational pursuit was fun. All the while he was in Europe, his real estate in Vegas was still making him money (his parents managed while he was away), and he was learning German. He met many people that would help him socialize with diverse personalities in later life.

During his stay in Switzerland, Thomas also considered law school. He had been presented with the opportunity to go to the new and only law school in Nevada because of his high academic grades in college, and so he thought long and hard about whether he actually wanted to become a lawyer. One day he went to Rome and stood in the Roman Forum when a tour guide started talking about the God of Chaos and Order (Saturn). The message was compelling.

According to the story, a statue of Saturn stood in the square, blindfolded and with bound arms, for most of the year. During that time, law and order was enforced throughout the empire. In December, however, the blindfold and shackles were removed from the arms and law and order would be ignored for two weeks. Roles would be reversed. During this chaotic time, crimes went unpunished and people could do what they wanted. It was a period of drunkenness, debauchery, gambling (even among the slaves), and idleness. Then, ceremoniously, the statue was blindfolded and shackled to symbolically restore law and order.

Thomas thought that overhearing this story from a tour guide was a sign suggesting that perhaps law school would be interesting. If law and order could build an empire, perhaps law would be good to know about. He made his decision, on the spot, that he would accept the invitation to William S. Boyd Law School in Las Vegas. Shortly after returning to Las Vegas from his world tours, Thomas started on his legal studies.

During the four years that Thomas went to college and the one year that he traveled, William, on the other hand, spent his time excelling at work, but living a somewhat wild and reckless life. He was promoted multiple times and made pretty good money in the resorts in Las Vegas. However, he spent his money and had some bad relationships with girls. One girl became pregnant and he thought he was the father, but he was not sure because she had cheated on him with a stranger she had met online. For nine months, he treated her as if she might be the mother of his child, supporting her financially, and preparing to marry her if she was. Thomas was present in the hospital just after the birth and saw William beaming with pride, comparing his features to the child’s. It turned out not to be William’s child.

During law school, Thomas knew he could no longer live with his parents. It was too noisy and distracting. So, Thomas moved into one of his tiny rental units that became vacant. It was a traveler trailer of about 320 square feet. One day William called. “I have some real financial problems. I’m in enormous debt and was wondering if I could stay with you for awhile and pay you a little rent.”

Thomas agreed to help his best friend. William slept on the couch in the tiny living room for the next several months while he figured out his financial situation. William joined the military part-time while working full time for a casino, which helped. William still liked to live high, but staying with his stingy friend in a tiny traveler trailer was an experience. Thomas would insist on quiet so that he could study law, but then would occasionally turn on German music, which was not pleasant to others’ ears.

William was beginning to see the wisdom in saving and living a little more for the future and not constantly for the moment. At the same time, Thomas began to recognize that, if you do not have fun in the moment with what you are doing, then what is the purpose of living? Life should be enjoyed, moment to moment, but not at the sacrifice of the future. Between the two friends, they came to a middle ground of understanding on what it meant to live a fulfilling life. Life is a balance of sacrifice for the future and fun for the moment.

Thomas enjoyed hiking and outdoors activities that did not cost a lot of money, and showed William how he could save money and still have fun. At the same time, William showed Thomas how he could occasionally splurge so that he could identify more with mainstream America. The two would go on road trips, which, to Thomas, did not seem cheap, but were well worth the trouble. He had enjoyed traveling alone before, but found a companion made the journeys interesting in their own right. Thomas became a little less thrifty and William became a little more.

In law school, Thomas no longer spent endless hours studying. Instead, he socialized for the first time in his life. His grades were still good, but he did not worry about being at the top of his class. He was now going to a school comprised of over-achievers and did not feel the need to compete with them. He took to heart the law school maxim of, “Those who get As in law school become professors, those who get Bs in law school become judges, and those who get Cs in law school become rich.” The more social law students were destined to become rainmakers, he believed, because they were less boring and bookish and more outgoing and engaging. Not only would the sociable attract more clients, but they would understand the behavior that would impress juries more too.

William went on to complete college himself and pursue his interests. He had always loved technology and went into the computer industry. He ended up having a very important job. William knew he could not work for a casino forever. Thomas, on the other hand, used the social skills he finally developed in law school and the business skills he learned from his Real Estate/Business major in college, to open his own Las Vegas law firm.

In part, because of their friendship, William and Thomas have both reached a level of success in their lives and are content, but still ambitious. “If you get too comfortable where you are,” Thomas says, “you stop growing as a person and life can become meaningless and depressing.”

Thomas sat back and reread his latest composition about growing up. "Well, this story has the conflict of personality types, the conflict of chaos and order, and the conflict between thrift and spending, but it is upbeat and delves into spiritual growth. Will anyone read it, though?"

Tom and the Sex-crazed High School Teachers

Special Sex Ed

Ms. Groo was a chubby special education teacher in her thirties when Tom was in high school. Most of the 2000 pupils on campus knew her simply because she taught the “retards,” as the crasser kids called them. Tom befriended a couple of these lower IQed students. He would see them walking home from school alone and would pull up along side them on his bicycle and walk and talk for a while. Some of those kids had interesting views of the world and some came from very strange families.

Anyway, back to Ms. Groo. Tom knew very little about her, but admired a teacher that would spend her day trying to drill life skills into students who required extreme patience. That is until one day--she wasn't at the school anymore. Tom soon learned that she had been fired from the school district for allegedly having sex with one of her special students.

Arrogant Charisma

The high school had a couple of theater teachers while Tom attended. One of them was Mr. Showmaker, a thirty-year old, clean cut, well-built man who had acted in some television prior to becoming a schoolteacher. He was handsome and several of the girls giggled when they gossiped about him.

Mr. Showmaker took charge of an after school martial arts club for students to work out and train with him. Tom decided to join. The club was supposed to be a place where martial arts students of different disciplines could show each other moves. Mr. Showmaker quickly changed that and made it more into a showcase for his abilities. One day, Mr. Showmaker, decked out in his karate gi, told the club members that he was very annoyed that a woman he knew who was a black belt had let her boyfriend beat her because she did not have the will to fight.

“Having a belt will do you no good if you do not know how to face a combative situation,” he said, “So, I’m going to have each of you spar with me, and you’ll learn. I don’t want anyone that I train with to be like that black belt woman.”

Tom did not like this. He came to martial arts club because he thought that the Oriental art was fascinating, not because he wanted to fight with a teacher. Tom and one of his friends often sparred for sport in his friend's back yard on a mat made out of carpets. Tom had also fought plenty of bullies throughout his public school days and it seemed to him that Showmaker was just trying to show off. Tom knew it was supposed to be only a sparring match, but he knew that he would very likely injure Showmaker in the process, and perhaps Showmaker, who was much stronger and more skilled, would then thrash him. Showmaker had the air of someone you did not mess with. An assault on his ego could result in physical harm. Tom regretted joining the club and this would be the last day he would go. He even considered leaving then and there.

Tom had never had Showmaker as a teacher, but his parents had run into him once while at the school for an Orchestra concert that Tom had performed in on the theater stage. Showmaker talked to Tom’s prim and proper mother about something, and almost said the word “sh*t,” but caught himself at the last minute. Tom had been standing nearby and his mother later commented on this.

“Mr. Showmaker almost said a bad word,” she said, “I could tell.”

Now, as Tom sat awaiting his turn to spar with the man, he recalled this conversation. It seemed to 16-year-old Tom that Showmaker had a hard time controlling himself. He recalled another time when Mr. Showmaker and Tom’s Orchestra teacher, Mr. Wirrin, started yelling at each other during class. Mr. Showmaker went into the room where the Orchestra was rehearsing and started complaining that Mr. Wirrin had left chairs and stands on Showmaker's stage after a rehearsal. He was very rude to Mr. Wirrin in front of Mr. Wirrin’s students. When he left the classroom, Mr. Wirrin turned to his Orchestra students and shook his head, “What a jerk,” he mumbled.

So, Tom sparred, or rather he blocked everything that Showmaker threw and decided to be defensive rather than aggressive. Often when he fought bullies, Tom liked to wear them down by defending. Many bullies had more powerful muscles that could seriously injure Tom if fists landed on his face, but Tom had endurance on his side and could literally be the last one able to stand. Unlike many bullies, Tom had extensive martial arts training both from classes and from drill instruction from his ex marine father. Over and over again, bullies would throw all of their conviction into the first few moments but rarely had the stamina or patience to beat someone who cooly defended and stuck only when opportunity presented. Mr. Showmaker criticized Tom for not now engaging him.

“You can’t be afraid to hit me. Don’t be like that woman and just stand there and take it.”

Tom replied, “That friend of yours, she survived, didn’t she?”

“Yeah.”

“Well, I intend to survive too. I may not have struck you, but none of your strikes are getting me.” Tom knew that Showmaker was just waiting for Tom to throw a punch that would end him in an arm bar on the ground, a move that would have made the other’s awe at Showmaker’s prowess. Tom had just watched Showmaker throw one of the other club members to the ground moments before.

When Showmaker realized that sparring scrawny Tom was not going to end in his glory, he told Tom to take a seat so he could then demonstrate some moves.

Tom did not go back to the club. He believed that the teacher had a streak of narcissism in him that was difficult to respect. Several months later, he went to see the student stage production that Showmaker had worked on with his students. The main star, a sixteen-year-old, did not perform that evening. An ambulance came to the school and she was taken away. With that distraction, the play was awful. Tom learned the next day that she had had a nervous breakdown because Showmaker had allegedly been having sex with her, and that, coupled with her pending debut in front of her parents and classmates, had been too much for her to handle that night. Showmaker was forced to resign in disgrace shortly thereafter.

Tom Learns about Knives and Orchestra Teachers

Tom played the violin in school for seven years, sixth through twelfth grade. During that time, he had four different Orchestra teachers. His first was a twenty-something year old, short man, of Swiss descent teaching at a sixth grade center. The second Orchestra teacher was a young woman of Irish descent who taught seventh grade.

His third was an old man of Scottish descent who taught Tom in eighth and ninth grade before retiring, named Mr. Abbotson. And the fourth was a forty-something year old African American who took over from Mr. Abbotson, named Mr. Wirrin. The best of the four was Mr. Abbotson who looked liked a composer or conductor of old. He always wore a bow tie and a Hanna hat when outside to cover his bald head. The worst teacher was the jazz playing bassist Mr. Wirrin, who could play a mean bass but couldn't teach worth a darn. These last two are worth discussing in more detail.

The old Scott played the piano and cello expertly, but learned proficiency on all of the instruments. When the eighth grade Orchestra students went on a bus trip to Disneyland, Mr. Abbotson made sure that the trip was full of music. He had them perform at a junior high along the way and then again in Disneyland’s orchestral studio, playing a sound track for an animated movie. He had them all go see The Phantom of the Opera in the evening.

At night, when all of the students were supposed to sleep in their shared hotel rooms, the old man sat in a lawn chair in the parking lot, and stared up at all the rooms to let the kids know he was watching and they had better behave. He was probably asleep, but to Tom and the others, his presence outside meant they would be caught if they attempted leaving their rooms. Tom thought it was a little creepy seeing Mr. Abbotson in his bow tie, hat, and glasses--unmoving, like a vampire waiting for activity upon which to pounce.

Mr. Abbotson would sometimes tell stories in class, but he would make sure that most of the time was spent playing music. One story he told involved the progress on his home he had bought and all of the governmental problems he was running into to get certain additions and landscaping approved by Clark County. Tom had no idea that Mr. Abbotson was talking about a home around the corner from where Tom lived, until sometime later when he saw his aged teacher taking a routine walk around the hood.

When Abbotson retired from the Clark County School District after many decades of teaching, he held private lessons in his home and Tom would go every week to improve his violin skills. Mr. Abbotson had installed a grand piano in his living room and would sometimes invite neighbors over to perform for them. A couple years after Tom graduated high school, Mr. Abbotson decided to move to another State to be close to his grandchildren. Tom, a real estate major in college, purchased the home from his old high school teacher and private violin tutor. Years later, Tom visited the old man. He was still giving private lessons and he gave daily performances on a grand piano in Nordstrom’s.

Mr. Wirrin, on the other hand, was a completely different teacher. Tom had this Orchestra teacher for three years, the longest of all four. Looking back, Tom thinks he wasted a lot of time taking Orchestra those last three years. Mr. Wirrin spent most of the class hour every day complaining about how the students did not practice enough at home. He said that they would not get a superior rating at the yearly inter-school competition if they did not. He told the students that if they did not take Orchestra seriously, the program would be in jeopardy because sports was considered by school officials to be more important to fund than music programs.

Tom would often wonder why the class time was wasted. The students could have been practicing instead of listening to Mr. Wirrin, who seemed to like to hear himself speak even though his communication skills were severely lacking. Wirrin would pepper his monologues with “ums” and “uhs.” At concerts, when he introduced a piece the orchestra would play, he sounded very nervous and the “ums” and “uhs” only increased in incidence. Tom would cringe in discomfort as he considered what the audience must think.

When Mr. Wirrin took the students on bus trips to Magic Mountain, or other parks in California, as was the yearly tradition, he took no extra effort to make the trips memorable. There were no stops along the way to play with other schools. The only stops were in Barstow for lunch and several stops so the chaperons and bus driver could smoke. Instruments were left at home. At night, Wirrin slept in his own room and wore sound-canceling headphones so he would not be disturbed.

On one of the trips to California, when Tom was eighteen and a senior, Tom carried his Swiss army knife, an heirloom bespeaking his Swiss ancestry. On the bus, one of the other students was having difficulty opening a package of junk food and Tom assisted with his pocketknife. A chaperoning parent, upon sight of the knife, acted hysterically and pointed it out to Wirrin, who confiscated it.

“I’m surprised that you would break the rules,” he scolded Tom. “I could keep you from going into the park tomorrow for bringing this knife.”

“But I am an adult, outside of school, on a weekend. We are not even taking a school bus,” Tom explained, “What’s wrong with me bringing a tool with me? We use knives all the time to eat. Students were using butter knives and steak knives at lunch in Barstow.”

“That’s different,” Wirrin said, without explaining why. “I’m going to have a word with your father when we get back. This is a very serious thing you did. I thought you had more sense and were more responsible than this. You know the younger students see you as an example.”

If he had not lost respect for Mr. Wirrin in the two and a half years prior, Tom had now lost every vestige of it. Tom considered dropping out of Orchestra for the remainder of the year and taking another class instead. Other students had done it, but Tom ultimately wanted to see things through, even if it was uncomfortable.

That night in his hotel room, Mr. Wirrin wore his noise-canceling headphones, which he had bragged about to some of the parents on the bus. He was oblivious to the shenanigans going on throughout the hotel by high school students. A hotel window was broken. Students that wanted to sleep were harassed by those that did not. The hotel was alive with teenagers most of the night. Boys were going to girls' rooms; girls were going to boys'.

Tom thought that he could have saved the money on his hotel room and slept better in a lawn chair. His roommates were not letting him sleep as they called other students on the hotel phones, called each other names involving homosexuality because four were supposed to share two beds, etc. Tom almost hit one of the squirly boys in the face to get him to shut his obnoxious hole, but thought better of it and sat out the night in a chair.

Upon returning to Las Vegas, Mr. Wirrin sought out Tom’s father’s car and strode over to the driver’s side. Tom’s former Marine father, Noland, looked sternly out of his window at Mr. Wirrin as Tom put his luggage in the trunk.

“Your son did a very dangerous thing which is against the school rules. He was caught with a knife on the bus. I have it here and wanted to give it to you personally. Tom is going to graduate soon, so I will not raise this with the dean. You better make sure he does not bring it to school.”

To Mr. Wirrin's chagrin, Nol handed the knife to Tom.

On the ride home, Nol looked over at his son and grinned. “It’s a good thing he didn’t know about this,” Nol pulled out and showed the handgun that he had concealed illegally in his palm beside his seat for protection.

The neighborhood around the school was getting worse and worse, after all.